Lust is an amazing sensation. To experience this exuberant feeling. To see it in another's eyes as they look straight into yours. That's the stuff poets speak of. It exists for one sole purpose to seek out the physicality from a relationship and explore the possibilities. It's egocentric, it's immediate gratification. It is urgent, it's selfish. It's amazing.
"For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world." [1 John 2, 16]
And it is in this world that we live. So I'd recommend a shot of lust to all of you out there. Just to survive the inevitable facts of life. Now I propose we analyze what, why and when did lust become a psycho-pathological problem to reckon with. I'd presume the problems are primarily entrenched in social control, power and thereby domination. If women are excluded from these equations by steering them away from education, health-care and are left predisposed to excel by virtue of the only edge they have - 'sexuality'. Herein comes reason to curb the desires of men by issuing documents that pronounce: "Neither shall you commit adultery." "Neither shall you covet your neighbor's wife." [10 Commandments]
To come up with these laws was pretty ingenious to say the least... but don't blow it out of proportion the politicians of the time were only devising laws and rules similar to what their present day counter parts have done with TADA and the Department of Homeland Security ...
It was their way of keeping the masses enslaved, en shackled and under control. What better way to do that than obscure the very biological context for which we are made. Throw us out of the comfortable realm of mammalian existence and dictate on to us this manifesto of civility and socially accepted behavior.
Jousting moral turpitude and the destructiveness of affairs, we swim the waters of psychopathology. The moral disapprovals that we bring forth when we find that our cup is beginning to runneth over with some innocent tantalizing, promising, exciting uncertainty. Could it have just been efforts to make social occasions less boring; to celebrate the overcoming of one’s former social shyness and sense of social inadequacy.
Endorsing mainstream ideals of fidelity battling ambivalent, contradicting, and alienated personal values amidst it's evolution we try to duke it out organizing and regulating our social and sexual behavior. We obfuscate infidelity as a right, a privilege, or an entitlement. Do we blame it all on increased access and unfair social sanctions against infidelity skewed against females.
I pose the question is infidelity a sign of changing attitudes towards male sexual entitlement and conquest or is it a sign of depreciating psychological investment in a given relationship. Which brings me to my next question how effective is dissociating sex and love and to seek sexual variety.
So if we have figured out the biological need for sex, the moral proscriptions of lust, tell me where does passion find it's place and how about some psychological intimacy. Children of Men who among you can answer me. Fly to the skies and find me an answer.
If we are to go by what Shakesphere has to say about lust:
Shakespeare's Sonnet No:129
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- The expense of spirit in a waste of shame
- Is lust in action; and till action, lust
- Is perjured, murderous, bloody, full of blame,
- Savage, extreme, rude, cruel, not to trust,
- Enjoy'd no sooner but despised straight,
- Past reason hunted, and no sooner had
- Past reason hated, as a swallow'd bait
- On purpose laid to make the taker mad;
- Mad in pursuit and in possession so;
- Had, having, and in quest to have, extreme;
- A bliss in proof, and proved, a very woe;
- Before, a joy proposed; behind, a dream.
- All this the world well knows; yet none knows well
- To shun the heaven that leads men to this hell
